Ten qualities that will make you irresistibly attractive

Hey brother,

If you struggle with being a nice guy, attracting and connecting with the women you want most, or living life on your terms, this is a must-read.

If you have been following my teachings for any amount of time, you've seen me as the guy who's always out having a wild time with beautiful women—a ladies' man, if you will. You've heard me talk about the importance of mindset. While that’s always been part of my life, there’s a deeper aspect to what has always made me so attractive and magnetic to women—something that a lot of guys simply don't understand or see unless you work with me in person.

The secret lies in my upbringing. There are three major unpleasant experiences I went through during my childhood that influenced my dating life as well as my ability to live authentically on my terms. In this email, I am going to share these three experiences along with ten life lessons that had a profound impact on my ability to live a life most guys could only dream of.

The first major influence was my childhood up to the age of 12. My dad was in the military and was always getting stationed in different places, so we moved around a lot. We never stayed anywhere longer than a few years, which meant that I was always having to leave my friends and make new ones. To be honest, I hated it at the time. I was a shy, introverted kid who was often picked on, so always changing schools and having to make new friends wasn’t a fun experience.

The second major influence was when my dad left when I was 12 years old, just after we moved to a rural part of upstate New York. We had just settled into our new house, and before school even started, my dad sat me down and told me he was going to be leaving for a while. He explained that he was stationed in Korea for a year and that I was going to have to be the man of the house and take care of things while he was away. I remember trying to act calm and strong at the time. It was only a year, but it felt like he was leaving forever. I was going through puberty, so my emotions were flying out of control. I was confused, sad, scared, pissed off, happy, and a thousand other emotions that I had no idea how to handle at the time.

The third major influence was growing up in rural America. From 12-18 years old, I spent countless days out in nature, hanging with friends, roaming the woods, exploring, going on adventures, swimming in the creeks, jumping off cliffs, climbing trees, and pushing myself out of my comfort zone. Although I hated my parents at the time for pulling me out of city life, the freedom to explore the outdoors gave me a sense of independence and curiosity that has stayed with me. Looking back, I realize these three experiences provided me with some of the most essential and valuable qualities for my personal growth and success with women.

Here are the ten major life lessons that both directly and indirectly influenced my ability to create such an adventurous and wild life filled with beautiful women. As you are reading through them I encourage you to make a note of the qualities that you lack you you can begin working on them. 

1. Embracing Change: I was forced to accept and embrace change at a very young age. Learning to adapt to new environments, schools, and people became second nature to me. Adaptability and fluidity are powerful traits in social interactions, dealing with women, and life in general. 

2. Accepting Impermanence: I learned to accept that nothing is permanent and that people will always come and go. There’s no point in trying to hold onto something you have no control over. Whether it be a relationship or hardship we are going through. It is all temporary. We are born, everything is constantly changing, and we die. 

3. Cherishing the Present Moment: Knowing that we could move anytime made me appreciate, love, and make the most out of every moment I had, whether I was by myself, with friends, family, or with a girl. I never knew when it would be the last time we’d hang out before my dad came home and told us we were moving again.

4. Being Adaptive and Flexible: Moving frequently made me more adaptive and flexible. I could quickly adjust to new schools, new friends, and new environments. This skill has been invaluable in navigating life's challenges, the complexities of adult life, and the many relationships I have had over the years.

5. Letting Go: I learned that trying to hold onto friendships or situations that were beyond my control only led to frustration and disappointment. Letting go became a liberating ongoing practice, allowing me to live fully and move forward with ease. Over time, this taught me emotional intelligence. 

6. Forced Independence: Being told to "be the man of the house" at such a young age made me grow up fast and taught me to stand on my own two feet. Despite the inner turmoil I was experiencing at the time, it taught me to walk, talk, and act as if I were the fu*king man, which always made me appear stronger and more attractive.

7. Rebellion and Questioning Authority: The absence of my dad's discipline allowed me to explore and push boundaries in all aspects and challenge authority figures like my mom, teachers, and others. This experience taught me to think critically about societal norms and not blindly follow others' opinions or rules.

8. Independent Thinking: I learned to think for myself and make my own decisions. Right or wrong, good or bad, they were mine, and this fostered a strong sense of personal responsibility and self-reliance. In a world that is constantly trying to tell us what we should and should not believe, this is critical. 

9. Non-Conformity and Not Seeking Validation: Developing a "not giving a f*ck" attitude helped me resist seeking external validation from others, including women. I learned to do what I wanted based on what I believed in, regardless of what others thought or societal expectations.

10. Inner Confidence and Attractiveness: Despite not fitting conventional standards of height—I am only 5’8”—attractiveness or coolness, I learned to believe in my ability to attract women based on my inner qualities. I accepted that I had flaws, that I was imperfect, and that I would never be that six-foot-tall handsome guy that I thought girls were most attracted to. I refused to let these external factors dictate who I could or could not date, instead cultivating an internal belief in myself that anything is possible and I can have whatever I want.

All these are invaluable qualities, not just for attracting and connecting with the women you want, but also for being authentic and living life on your terms, versus being a nice guy that gets walked all over or being a sheep that follows the crowd and does whatever he is told.

So I ask you;

• Which of the above qualities do you lack that you could begin working on? 
• What are three negative experiences you had growing up that you could learn from?
• Is the story you continue to tell yourself today about these experiences influencing you in a positive or negative way?
• What are some of the valuable lessons you learned or can learn from them?

We all have the freedom to either focus on the bad things that happened and let them control our lives, or we can learn from them, embrace them, and become a better, stronger, and more attractive version of ourselves. The choice is yours. 

These are just a few qualities that I help my clients develop, and I encourage you to reflect on them and look at how you can turn your PERSONAL story from that of being a victim to that of being a fully empowered and actualized man.

Best regards,

Cory Skyy

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