Sexual Confidence Isn’t a Maybe — It’s a Knowing

Hey bro,

I've got a funny story about my son I wanted to share and hope you find some value in it.  

I was out at one of the only two bars in my tiny town a couple weeks ago.

Population? Around 2,500. Most of the single women? Not exactly my type. 

But that night, I spotted one.
Cute. Fun energy. Totally my type.
Didn’t get to talk to her though — my buddy wanted to leave early. My son was my DD, so we piled into the truck and bounced.

On the way out, I told my buddy — half-joking, half-not — “I’m gonna f*ck that girl.”

My son heard me and looked like he just found out Santa wasn’t real.
“Dad… how do you have that kind of confidence? You didn’t even talk to her.”

I just smiled and said, “I just know.”

That was it.

Fast forward a few weeks, I went out again. Same place, same small-town vibe. But this time, I did talk to someone — cute girl, easy chemistry, lots of laughing, real connection.

Good times.
It was getting late, so I texted my son to come scoop me again. He walks into the bar with his buddy like he’s been doing this for years. They chilled while I said goodbye to the girl.

As we’re heading out, my son’s cracking up.
“What’s so funny?” I asked.

He says, “That girl you were talking to just said the same thing you said about that other girl. She told me she’s gonna f*ck the hell outta you.”

I burst out laughing.
“What’d you say?”

He just shrugged.
“I told her I wasn’t surprised. You get that a lot from women.” 

Then he looked at me and said something that stuck.
“Dad, I want that kind of confidence.”

Here’s the thing…

I didn’t actually know I was gonna f*ck that girl the first night.
Just like that girl didn’t know 100% if we were going to hook up either.

But we both knew what we wanted.
And more importantly — we trusted that if the timing, vibe, and opportunity lined up... it would happen.

That’s what s*xual confidence is.

It’s not declaring that “It will happen.”
It’s simply stating that “I know I could make it happen, if it’s right.”

And that alone? Changes everything.

If it happens---Cool! 

If nothing happens---Cool! 

Either way, I am not attached to the outcome. 

You?

If you're like most guys, you’re probably second-guessing yourself before you even say hi.
Wondering if you’re good enough.
Thinking about all the ways it could go wrong.
And talking yourself out of what you actually want.

Why?

Why the hell would you waste your energy running fake mental simulations about how you might fail?

Wouldn’t it feel better to just say what you want and own it?

They’re not doing that.
The women you want? They’re out there saying yes to themselves.
They’re making bold declarations.
They’re expressing desire without shame.
And they love when a man does the same.

Confidence isn’t based on the outcome.
It’s based on what you believe about yourself — before anything happens.

That’s the secret.

That’s the edge.

That’s why my son looked at me and said, “I want that.”

Because he saw what most men never realize...

 Confidence isn’t about knowing it’ll happen.
It’s about knowing you can and are fully capable of.
And trusting that if the moment’s right — you’ll show the f*ck up.

Let that sink in for a minute.

And next time you feel the pull —
Don’t overthink it.
Don’t backpedal.
Don’t ask for permission.

Just let yourself want what you want.

And f*cking own it.

Till next time,

-Cory SKyy

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