PART 4 - THE IDENTITY RUNNING YOUR LIFE (OFTEN WITHOUT YOU KNOWING IT)

PART 4 — THE IDENTITY RUNNING YOUR LIFE (OFTEN WITHOUT YOU KNOWING IT)

From “The Liberated Man Initiation” Mini Coaching Series

By Cory Skyy

INTRODUCTION

In Part 1, we opened the doorway.

In Part 2, we learned how life mirrors your inner world — how your beliefs, emotions, and energy shape everything you experience.

And now, in Part 3, we dive into the engine behind all of it:
the core mechanism that shapes 99% of your reality…

Identity.
Your self-image.
The internal “film” you project into the world.
The unconscious programming creating your life.

Most men never discover this piece.
But once you see it — truly see it — nothing in your reality will ever look the same again.

Let’s begin.

IDENTITY: THE INVISIBLE FORCE SHAPING YOUR ENTIRE LIFE

Identity isn’t what you want.
It’s not what you hope for.
It’s not what you say you believe.
It’s not your intentions or your motivation.

Identity is:

Who you believe yourself to be.
Who you assume you are.
The version of yourself you return to automatically.

And this invisible self-image determines everything:

• The opportunities you notice

• The risks you take

• The relationships you accept

• The money you earn

• The standards you set

• The boundaries you enforce

• The way people treat you

• The way you carry yourself

• The energy you walk into a room with

Identity isn’t part of your life.

Identity creates your life.

YOU CANNOT OUTPERFORM YOUR SELF-IMAGE

Here’s where most men get stuck for years:

They try to change their life…
while holding onto the same identity that created the life they’re trying to escape.

They try to:

• build new habits

• get more disciplined

• take bigger risks

• attract better relationships

• improve confidence

• make more money

• become more grounded

• become better leaders

…but deep down, they are still operating from an old internal story:

“I’m not enough.”
“I’m behind.”
“I’m not worthy.”
“I’m unlucky.”
“I’m not the type of man women want.”
“I’m a guy who always struggles.”
“I’m not leadership material.”
“I don’t deserve success.”
“I don’t trust myself.”

If this is the internal film running inside you…

Life will bend itself to match it — even if you hate the results.

Because identity is gravity.

It pulls you back into a familiar version of yourself
over and over again
no matter how much effort you use to change externally.

This is why:

New goals don’t stick.
New routines fade.
New relationships repeat old patterns.
New opportunities evaporate.
New intentions collapse under the same old weight.

Not because you’re weak.
Not because you lack discipline.

Because your identity hasn’t shifted.

IDENTITY COMES BEFORE EVERYTHING

Before behavior.
Before confidence.
Before discipline.
Before attraction.
Before success.
Before purpose.
Before momentum.
Before transformation.

Identity comes first.
Reality comes second.

If your identity doesn’t change —
your life can’t.

Everything else is just rearranging furniture in the same house.

SO WHAT DOES THIS MEAN FOR YOU?

If you want to create a new life…
you must expand into a new identity.

A new internal story.
A new level of worthiness.
A new baseline of confidence and certainty.
A new relationship with yourself.
A new version of the man you are becoming.

Identity is the foundation upon which your entire reality is built.

Tomorrow, in Part 4, I’m going to share a story about a man who tried to outrun his old identity…
and kept falling back into the same patterns
until one specific moment finally snapped him out of it.

You’re going to feel this one.

Talk soon,
— Cory