3 archetypes that silently destroy good men

As a man, nothing is more dangerous than being out of alignment with your truth.

You can build the business. Date the women. Hit the gym. Check every box that looks good from the outside—but if it’s not rooted in who you really are, it will eventually feel hollow. Like you’re living someone else’s life. And it’ll eat away at your soul one silent day at a time.

There are 3 archetypes I see men unconsciously fall into when life gets hard.

They’re not obvious at first.
They feel comfortable. Familiar. And sometimes even “noble.”

But they are silently destroying your confidence, your relationships, your leadership—and your inner peace.

Here’s what they look like:

1. The Pleaser / Nice Guy

He craves love—but chases it through approval.
He avoids conflict, hides his truth, and swallows his desire to be “safe.”
His edge is gone.

Core Wound: “If I’m fully myself, I won’t be loved.”

But deep down, he’s angry. Disconnected.
And quietly resents the life he built through self-abandonment.

2. The Victim / Martyr

He feels like life is happening to him.
He blames the world, his past, and everyone around him.

He wears pain like a badge.
But his real addiction isn’t to struggle—it’s to powerlessness.

Core Wound: “Life is happening to me, not for me.”

So he stays stuck. Even when he knows how to move forward.

3. The Lone Wolf

(Shadow of the Warrior & King)

He prides himself on doing it all alone.
No help. No softness. No emotion.

But his solitude isn’t strength—it’s a shield.
A way to protect his ego from vulnerability.

Core Wound: “No one will be there for me—I’m on my own.”

But when life really hits?
He has no one in his corner.

These aren’t just behaviors.
They’re survival strategies.
Born from pain. Reinforced by a world that doesn’t teach men how to live in truth, alignment, and power.

And the longer you stay in one of these shadows… 

It’ll eat you alive—slowly and silently. That spark you once had? Gone. That sense of excitement and wonder? Gone. Belief in yourself? Gone. 

So how do you break free?

You need to stop lying to yourself and realign with your truth and values as a man.

Real alignment isn’t about perfection—it’s about integrity. Knowing what you stand for, what lights you up, what your values are—and then having the courage to actually live by them. That’s where your real confidence comes from. That’s where peace comes from. That’s where your masculine power starts to wake up.

Most men are walking around so disconnected from their truth. Numb. Going through the motions. And they wonder why they feel lost, anxious, angry, or stuck.

Realignment changes that. It puts your soul back in the driver’s seat—and when that happens, your whole life starts to move.

Make the decision, change your life,

-Cory