Recently, forum member Bachelor Brit posed a great question about "bitchy" women in bars and clubs: "I have lost count of the amount of times I have seen men approach a hot woman in a bar or club only to be shot down instantly and women tend to have their guard up quite high. I realize this is to block out the chumps, the nice guys but Cory what do you do if a woman is bitchy to you upon approaching her? Do you make it known that her behavior is rude or unacceptable (in a calm manner of course) or would you simply walk off straight away and approach another woman or go and do whatever it is. I have sometimes been up to women in the past in bars where I get a Bitchy attitude even though I didn't use any funny or dirty pickup lines. I know being angry isn't the way to go obviously so I would just walk off I just assumed they weren't interested. My energy was probably bad or something. The Nice Guy energy perhaps? It would be interesting to hear what you have to say on this. Thanks."

Here's how I answered his question: I know exactly what you are talking about with this; I have been in many situations where I have seen girls do this, and yes it is frustrating, even for me standing there watching it. No it usually doesn't happen to me with hot women. It would happen to one of my friends that didn't really have any game (or should I say he had no belief in himself). I agree with all of you about how it is your mindset, and feeling like you are the prize. It is the energy that you are projecting out when you actually talk to hot women. Usually the girls that will come across bitchy to me are the ones that are a little less attractive and super insecure with themselves. When I was younger my motto was "Fat chicks hate me". It was always a joke between me and my friends because no matter how nice I was to them they would always be bitchy to me. At the time I could not figure out why and honestly didn't really give a shit because I had no interest in them anyways. God's honest truth I would go out and if I did end up in a conversation with a Fat chick or a less attractive, insecure girl she would be a total bitch to me. For the pure fact that she knew that she could not have me and I was way out of her league, she was so insecure with herself, which her only line of defense at that point was to come across as a bitch to me. It was like I was using dirty pick up lines on them and they were getting mad, like some loser guy might do. Of course I wasn't even interested at all. They were not consciously trying to be a bitch to me, it was always done on a subconscious level; they did not even know they were coming off that way. I have a lot of guys that tell me all the time that they always attract fat chicks. Well, guess what? That is because that is all that they feel they deserve. Then they go into telling me that hot women are always bitchy to them, and guess what? That's because they don't feel that they deserve the hot girl. I know I deserve the hottest women out there and as soon as you start to internalize this mindset and actually believe that you deserve the hottest women than you will stop attracting the fat chicks and start attracting what you really want and hot women will stop being bitches to you. You must really pay attention to the energy that you are putting off to hot women. Are you like some dude saying dirty pick up lines to all the women at the bar? Or using weird pickup routines instead of connecting with beautiful women? If you are like every other guy out there that is not so great with women you are probably putting off a negative vibe or energy to beautiful women. You have frustration towards them and maybe a little anger built up inside for the pure fact that they never did give you the time of day and they have always rejected you. In return you are putting off that negative vibe to them on a subconscious level when you approach them. You bring it on to yourself; before you even talk to the girl you have already destroyed any possibility to actually have a conversation with her or anything else for that matter. Internally you feel that they are currently out of your league; the good news is that we create our own reality and you can change your current reality at any moment. Here is one way to prevent this from happening to you until you internalize this mindset: Stop approaching women! Stop using weird, cheesy or dirty pick up lines just to have an excuse to talk to a woman! By approaching her all you do is set yourself up for rejection, you just become every other guy when you approach. Don't be every other guy! Honestly if she is a hot girl you must understand that she gets approached all the time by guys with pathetic lines and it gets old after a while. I know, because I have been in the shoes of a hot girl. I have so many women approaching me all the time (half of whom I'm not attracted to), it really gets fucking old after a while. Yes it is flattering at first, but then you just get to a point where you are sick of it. I would rather have that super hot connection through my eyes with a girl and then have her approach me, and women feel the same way. Women do not like turning guys down. They also don't like hearing stupid, annoying or dirty pick up lines. They do not like having to be a bitch, if you had this sexual connection with them through your eyes before you approached her or vice versa they would actually give you the time of day and would not be bitchy to you. You need to put yourself in women's shoes for once. Women are normal human beings just like us, so start looking at things from their point of view. Would you like to have a ton of fat/ugly/insecure chicks approaching you daily? NO! And if you did you would get sick of it? YES! You would rather have attractive, confident women that know how to have an intelligent conversation come up to you and just start talking to you showing genuine interest in getting to know you. So start taking care of yourself and become that sexually desirable confident guy and you will have these women in your life. If it does happen to you, then just act like you don't give a fuck and walk away. DO NOT be an asshole to her. It is not her fault that she has a ton of chumps coming up to her all the time just because she is hot. I am going to be a little in your face with this one and say that it may not be the girl that is being the bitch--it may be you that is being the bitch. And all she is doing is just reacting to how you are acting. Start paying attention to how you are projecting yourself when you go out and quit approaching all the time and using dirty pick up lines, weird "routines" and the like. You'll be really glad you stopped doing all the crap and changed your mindset to that of a true ladies man. The first step to learning how to be great with women (and by far the most important!) is your mindset.

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